There is an epidemic going around. It’s contagious and attractive. We have a man problem where men are lacking in the everyday: family, work, and culture. Currently, we have so many boys walking around with a lost identity of manhood that it’s causing more harm than good despite innovations and advances in technologies, degrees earned, jobs obtained, and marriages celebrated.

Over 90% of crimes are committed by men; the divorce rate in marriages are exponential; adolescence is a prolonged (and encouraged) pastime stretching from the ages of 18 to early 30’s. 

Where did we go wrong? Is Manhood simply something that once was and it no longer applies to who we are today?

In this first installment, we place ourselves at the beginning: creation and identity.

CREATION

In Genesis 1:27, God said “Let Us make man in our image, according to our likeness.” The word image means “to be like; to resemble.” Man was created so that he would represent and glorify the One who created him in addition to carrying the responsibility given to Him (Genesis 2:15).

Simply, God hooked man (Adam) up with a job and a beautiful wife (Eve); calling him to cultivate the land and to be fruitful with his wife. Then, something happened. Man sinned. While Eve may have been the one who first ate of the forbidden fruit, it was Adam (who was was next to her) that dropped the ball by doing nothing to protect his wife. The lack of action by Adam would have implications for generations upon generations.

As our culture and technology continually evolve, the amount of ideologies and thoughts on what it means to be a man become further lost. What does is mean to be a man?  

We have boys who are  graduating college, starting a family, sleeping around, or obtaining loads of power and believe it is efforts like these that define men and while many of these aspirations (including several others) are not necessarily bad, they are not what make men. Rather, it is our relationship with the Lord that make men, gives purpose, and most importantly identity. 

IDENTITY

Before getting hooked up, man was first called into a relationship with God. At the centerpiece of creation, God was extremely intentional about having a relationship because it would be the driving force behind what it meant to be made in God’s image!

Our identity as men can only be found in the person and work of Jesus; understanding this will bring relationship, clarity, and acceptance. Acceptance is one of the biggest driving factors behind the decisions being made by boys today. The problem behind boys seeking acceptance is that it will ever be enough.

Let us look to the One who is enough; the One who restores us back to the Father. Men, we do not have time for excuses any more and we must take responsibility for our actions- up front and not passively. You don’t have to be alone, but you do have to step up.